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Posts: 8439 05/08/08 16:47:40	Tags : None What is a sponsors role and for how long? Our Shops
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JoAnne Kitchen		#1	[url]	[-]
Posts: 1386 05/08/08 20:37:52	For me guidance, with the promise of a shoulder to lean on. For me in today, it is often a two way street. Someone who is working a good program herself. At the beginning it was someone who had what I wanted. In today, a friend. I just invited my sponsor to go with me to what is called a Tranquil Tuesday. It is a free pass for two to The Royal Botanical Gardens here in Hamilton. In the Laking Garden you are invited to reflect and rejuvenate - enjoy live classical music, stroll the gardens and see the paintings of local artists. The ticket was given to me by the City of Hamilton Community Services Dept. for volunteer work at the Detention Center. It was because of a former sponsor that I got involved in service at two years sober. It is still reaping benefits in my life almost15 years later. Love Always, Jo Each day is a new beginning, so have a great one.
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Sam923		#2	[url]	[-]
Posts: 5509 05/09/08 15:10:25 Moderator	Wow. I guess what I think is a sponsor is supposed to be there for someone...take a newcomer through the steps...show them a different way to live...be human with them. For as long as it lasts. But it can be more than that, too. I liked it, for example, when I heard on a speaker tape that Dr. Paul and his sponsor sponsored each other, at that time in each of thier recoveries...they both had some time in the program. When someone new asks about sponsorship, I really like to be able to give them a copy of the sponsorship pamphlet. I feel like that explains way better than I ever could. I have a sponsor but we don't talk that often, really. They live out of town, and most of our sharing usually ends up being just doing things together, when we can. I know I can call her if I need to, and today, that seems to work ok for me. There's another person locally that I have talked to in the past year when I really needed to. This person isn't my sponsor, but has sure helped me, personally. Sam
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jdsober		#3	[url]	[-]
Posts: 1555 05/10/08 00:51:10 Moderator	Well, I think the answer may vary alot but from what I have always been told You and sponsor go through the 12 steps and in many cases the way it once was sponsor and sponsee do 12 step calls together and it to be a lasting thing of couse if it doesnt last no matter if you have 40 yrs of sobriety you go get another sponsor and do things the way that sponsor would have ya do unless it doesnt work then off to get another sponsor but if you have to go through 5 sponsors in a months time you might want to stop and see if one is running or not I know of a lady who has 20+ years and she said in a meeting that emotional sobrietys is day by day and moment by moment and if white chips were given out for emotional sobriety then maybe we'd all be getting one each time we went to a meeting I think while the promises are true we will always find something that makes our life unmanageable I could be wrong in all I say here but I thought I understood we have to stay fresh too so that we dont become miserable and accept miserable as a way of life. For some maybe a a sponsor is only there for the steps once and time to move on but I think we always need that one person to listen to when 10-15 people may only give us the answers we want and like ...which for me if someone gives me an answer I like each time thats way too dangerous.
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Tommy.12steprecovery		#4	[url]	[-]
Posts: 278 05/11/08 04:42:36 Moderator	sponsors has been more to me than just friends the relationships have developed into close personnel relationships.They have helped me with the program,and a lot of other things in life.Without their guidance,or sharing their esh,my life would not have what it does today.
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Kat449		#5	[url]	[-]
Posts: 164 05/12/08 03:15:05	Ive had sponsors that have told me up front, "Im not your new best friend, Im here to help guide you thru the steps only". I think sponsorship is much more than "just" the steps. Its supporting and encouraging eachother in addition to the steps. Its feeling safe and comfortable to share those steps, make those phonecalls, (and accept them as well) spending time together on 12 step calls, maybe coffee after meetings. I think sponsors should be sponsors, and best friends.....best friends, but I think a sponsorship relationship should be one of thee most important relationships we have as recovering folks. Sponsorship pamphlets are really helpful in defining the role of sponsor vs. sponsee. Both having "and" being a sponsor is a privilidge, an honor, and a blessing. I believe it should be nurtured & tended to as carefully as the other important significant relationships in our lives.(which takes time because when we come arrive in this fellowship most of us are pretty broken) Thats why patience & tolerance is so important between both. Just my humble opinion. Kat
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TinkM		#6	[url]	[-]
Posts: 8439 05/12/08 15:44:37	Great answers. I feel a sponsor can be many hats. Depending on how we develope with the person we choose. Just like all relationships they grow from truly liking a person not just happy with what they are providing. As far as my role as a sponsor when asked, I tell the person that I can only offer them simple suggestions on how it worked for me. I feel the most important thing as a sponsor that I do is be there for the newcomer in the beginning of their recovery as someone to bounced off their questions of life stuff with. I want them to become responsible and accountable for their decisions be they right or wrong. Our Shops
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